Deb and Mary's Big Wedding

Sixteen years in the making, my sister finally! got married to the love of her life Mary on a bright, wonderful Spring afternoon in Kailua, Hawaii. Maxine and I were chuppah pole holders, along with Mary's brother Jay who flew in from Buffalo. Deb and my parents, Myra and Reive, also made the long trip in from the East coast to be there.
Wed evening after we arrived in Honolulu was an informal dinner for immediate family and out-of-town friends at Little Village in Chinatown 5/11/16 8:53 PM Deb, Max, and Jawea Mockabee 5/11/16 7:16 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Jawea Mockabee, Maxine, Maxine Klein My folks, Myra and Reivan, and Deb's friend Karen Muldrow 5/11/16 7:17 PM : Karen Muldrow, Myra Zeleznik, Reivan Zeleznik Max, Jawea, and Mary 5/11/16 7:28 PM : Jawea Mockabee, Mary Wilkowski, Maxine, Maxine Klein Myra and Karen Muldrow 5/11/16 7:28 PM : Karen Muldrow, Myra Zeleznik Reivan with Deb's friends Laura and Chris Freeman-Clark 5/11/16 7:28 PM : Chris Freeman-Clark, Laura Freeman-Clark, Reivan Zeleznik
Somewhere in the middle of all the pre-wedding craziness was time for a lunchtime poke bowl at Bangga Bangga Poke in the Ala Moana food court. I loved the name so much, I had to take a photo. 5/12/16 1:34 PM Thursday night dinner was at Alan Wong's to celebrate both Deb and Mary's upcoming nuptials, as well as Myra's 80th birthday. Mary was in heaven since the first appetizer on the menu was the butter tasting! 5/12/16 6:32 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Mary Wilkowski, Myra Zeleznik The butter tasting- two unsalted butters topped with Hawaiian sea salt, and a third salted butter 5/12/16 6:31 PM Deb's seafood cakes were amazing 5/12/16 6:34 PM Opihi shooters with seaweed and nicoise olives. Opihi are Hawaiian limpets that are very difficult and dangerous to harvest from rocks in strong surf zones. 5/12/16 6:34 PM Mary's ribeye topped with "crazy corn" 5/12/16 6:54 PM
Opah, or moonfish 5/12/16 6:54 PM Reivan had the seafood hot pot 5/12/16 6:54 PM Myra and Reivan bestow their blessing on Deb and Mary 5/12/16 7:35 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Mary Wilkowski, Myra Zeleznik, Reivan Zeleznik 5/12/16 7:36 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Mary Wilkowski, Myra Zeleznik, Reivan Zeleznik 5/12/16 7:36 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Mary Wilkowski, Myra Zeleznik, Reivan Zeleznik 5/12/16 8:02 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Mary Wilkowski
Max's dessert was haupia (coconut creme) ice cream inside a chocolate shell, formed to look like a coconut. 5/12/16 7:58 PM Myra celebrates her 80th birthday, looking good mom! 5/12/16 8:01 PM : Myra Zeleznik Coming out of Alan Wong's and waiting for our car, we noticed this peanut and seed store next door. Only in HawaiI! 5/12/16 8:22 PM Friday lunch with the out-of-town crew at The Pig and the Lady in Chinatown. Toasting on the left from from front to back are Deb, Laura Freeman-Clark, Chris Freeman-Clark, and Mary's brother Jay who had just flown in from Buffalo late the night before. On the right from front to back are Max, Jawea Mockabee, Mary, and Karen Muldrow. 5/13/16 11:36 AM : Chris Freeman-Clark, Debra Zeleznik, Jawea Mockabee, Jay Wilkowski, Karen Muldrow, Laura Freeman-Clark, Mary Wilkowski, Maxine, Maxine Klein 5/13/16 11:36 AM : Chris Freeman-Clark, Debra Zeleznik, Jawea Mockabee, Jay Wilkowski, Karen Muldrow, Laura Freeman-Clark, Mary Wilkowski, Maxine, Maxine Klein Porchetta banh mi with a "Cobra Commander"- mezcal with sriracha ice cubes 5/13/16 11:50 AM
The pho is awesome 5/13/16 11:50 AM The sated but happy crew- Dave, Max, Laura, Karen, Chris, Deb, and Jay 5/13/16 12:50 PM : Chris Freeman-Clark, David, David Zeleznik, Debra Zeleznik, Jay Wilkowski, Karen Muldrow, Laura Freeman-Clark, Maxine, Maxine Klein Chris and Deb 5/13/16 12:52 PM : Chris Freeman-Clark, Debra Zeleznik On the way back to the car, we passed this store signage. With both gifts and weaponry for sale, how could we pass up a browse? 5/13/16 1:16 PM Yep, most of these buttons spoke to us 5/13/16 1:18 PM Deb with her pussy panties, a pre-wedding sale was  not  made 5/13/16 1:19 PM : Debra Zeleznik
Friday night shabbat dinner was at the home of Deb and Mary's friends, Dana and Craig Washofsky. Rabbi Peter Schaktman and Mary's brother Jay. 5/13/16 6:51 PM : Jay Wilkowski, Peter Schaktman Max and Gen Freeman 5/13/16 6:51 PM : Genevieve Freeman, Maxine, Maxine Klein Deb with her college roomie, Chris Dickinson who came in from Chicago 5/13/16 6:51 PM : Chris Dickinson, Debra Zeleznik Jawea and Mary 5/13/16 6:54 PM : Jawea Mockabee, Mary Wilkowski Karen, Deb and Mike Washofski, and Laura Clark 5/13/16 6:54 PM : Deborah Washofsky, Karen Muldrow, Laura Freeman-Clark, Mike Washofsky Dana welcomes everyone to Shabbat dinner on their lanai 5/13/16 7:17 PM : Chris Dickinson, Dana Washofsky, David, David Zeleznik, Debra Zeleznik, Jawea Mockabee, Jay Wilkowski, Mary Wilkowski, Maxine, Maxine Klein, Mike Washofsky, Peter Schaktman
Awww... Mary and Deb are overcome with emotions at the Shabbat table 5/13/16 7:17 PM : Chris Dickinson, Chris Freeman-Clark, Dana Washofsky, David, David Zeleznik, Debra Zeleznik, Jawea Mockabee, Jay Wilkowski, Mary Wilkowski, Myra Zeleznik, Reivan Zeleznik 5/13/16 7:15 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Mary Wilkowski My, what a big match you have to light the Shabbat candles! 5/13/16 7:19 PM : David, David Zeleznik, Debra Zeleznik, Jawea Mockabee, Mary Wilkowski, Maxine, Maxine Klein, Myra Zeleznik Deb, Max, and Myra prepare to light the Shabbat candles while Jawea takes a selfie 5/13/16 7:19 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Jawea Mockabee, Maxine, Maxine Klein, Myra Zeleznik 5/13/16 7:20 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Jawea Mockabee, Mary Wilkowski, Maxine, Maxine Klein, Myra Zeleznik Reivan does the long-form Kiddush 5/13/16 7:22 PM : Dana Washofsky, Deborah Washofsky, Myra Zeleznik, Reivan Zeleznik
The challas had Mary and Deb's names baked on top 5/13/16 7:24 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Mary Wilkowski 5/13/16 7:25 PM Dinner spread, thanks to lots of work by Dana and Craig 5/13/16 7:45 PM 5/13/16 7:52 PM : Genevieve Freeman, Reivan Zeleznik Myra and Reivan 5/13/16 8:23 PM : Myra Zeleznik, Reivan Zeleznik Homemade banana and mango bread, and fresh pineapple for dessert 5/13/16 8:26 PM
Chris Dickinson, Dana Washofsky, Rabbi Schaktman, and Max 5/13/16 8:26 PM : Chris Dickinson, Dana Washofsky, Maxine, Maxine Klein, Peter Schaktman The predicted Saturday rainstorms did not materialize, there are slow children playing in the chuppah just down this driveway in Kailua, and the brides-to-be have an industrial sized roll of plastic wrap. Sounds like all the ingredients for a wedding! 5/14/16 2:10 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Mary Wilkowski Max and Reivan 5/14/16 2:20 PM : Maxine, Maxine Klein, Reivan Zeleznik Myra and Rebecca 5/14/16 2:27 PM : Myra Zeleznik, Rebecca Yulish Deb organizing the leis for the wedding party 5/14/16 2:36 PM : Debra Zeleznik Dana Washofsky and Mike, her father-inlaw who was hosting the wedding at their house in Kailua 5/14/16 2:39 PM : Dana Washofsky, Mike Washofsky
Chuppah pole-holders, prepped and ready 5/14/16 2:42 PM : David, David Zeleznik, Maxine, Maxine Klein Deb give Max her lei. Notice how Deb is still not dressed for the wedding which is supposed to start in 15 minutes.... 5/14/16 2:42 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Maxine, Maxine Klein Rabbi Schaktman and Deb 5/14/16 2:43 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Peter Schaktman Deb's friends Mellanie Lee and Nalani Leonard 5/14/16 2:54 PM : Mellanie Lee, Nalani Leonard Reivan with Deb's friends Tracey Messer, Karen Schneiderman, and Katie Friedman 5/14/16 2:55 PM : Karen Schneiderman, Katie Friedman, Reivan Zeleznik, Tracey Messer Jay, Craig, and Rabbi Schaktman prep the chuppah 5/14/16 2:57 PM : Craig Washofsky, Jay Wilkowski, Peter Schaktman
Mary and the pastry chef, as Mary explains once again how the cake is "so rich, I couldn't  possibly  eat another piece" 5/14/16 2:59 PM : Mary Wilkowski 5/14/16 2:59 PM : Mary Wilkowski Rabbi Schaktman and Jan Fried 5/14/16 3:01 PM : Jan Fried, Peter Schaktman Max and Jawea try in vain to cool off before the ceremony by hiding in the bushes and sipping wine 5/14/16 3:04 PM : Jawea Mockabee, Maxine, Maxine Klein Craig Washofsky, whose folks were hosting the ceremony and reception, gives Mary and Deb their leis. 5/14/16 3:22 PM : Craig Washofsky, Debra Zeleznik, Mary Wilkowski 5/14/16 3:23 PM : Craig Washofsky, Mary Wilkowski
5/14/16 3:23 PM : Craig Washofsky, Debra Zeleznik, Mary Wilkowski Myra and Reivan 5/14/16 3:48 PM : Myra Zeleznik, Reivan Zeleznik Dino Cutrara and Mari Yoshihara 5/14/16 4:06 PM : Dino Cutrara, Mari Yoshihara The first dance 5/14/16 4:59 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Mary Wilkowski 5/14/16 4:59 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Mary Wilkowski 5/14/16 4:59 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Mary Wilkowski, Tracey Messer
5/14/16 4:59 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Mary Wilkowski Mary picked the R&B band  Hawaiian Soul , who were simply awesome. Not what you would normally expect at a party in Hawaii. 5/14/16 4:59 PM Karen Schneiderman and Tracey Messer dancing to the band 5/14/16 5:00 PM : Karen Schneiderman, Tracey Messer Deb and Tracey, and Mary and Karen 5/14/16 5:01 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Karen Schneiderman, Mary Wilkowski, Tracey Messer Brother and sister, and a little Mary Poppins shade action from the afternoon sun 5/14/16 4:10 PM : David, David Zeleznik, Debra Zeleznik, Reivan Zeleznik No Jewish wedding is complete without dancing the hora 5/14/16 4:32 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Tracey Messer
5/14/16 5:02 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Karen Schneiderman, Mary Wilkowski, Tracey Messer Post-ceremony replay with Cha Smith, Chris Dickinson, and Deb 5/14/16 4:49 PM : Cha Smith, Chris Dickinson, Debra Zeleznik The toasts and cake-cutting are about to start 5/14/16 5:02 PM : Mike Washofsky, Tracey Messer Mary's former law partner, Jane Kimmel, toasts the newlyweds 5/14/16 5:15 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Jane Kimmel, Mary Wilkowski The brides cut the cake, the brides cut the cake.... 5/14/16 5:19 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Mary Wilkowski 5/14/16 5:20 PM : Dana Washofsky, Debra Zeleznik, Mary Wilkowski
Why indeed, it is soooo rich.... 5/14/16 5:20 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Mary Wilkowski Deb and Mellanie at Cha and Colleen's house for Sunday morning brunch 5/15/16 10:40 AM : Debra Zeleznik, Mellanie Lee Mary, Reivan, Deb, and Myra on Sunday morning 5/15/16 12:47 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Mary Wilkowski, Myra Zeleznik, Reivan Zeleznik