Deb and Mary's Big Wedding

Sixteen years in the making, my sister finally! got married to the love of her life Mary on a bright, wonderful Spring afternoon in Kailua, Hawaii. Maxine and I were chuppah pole holders, along with Mary's brother Jay who flew in from Buffalo. Deb and my parents, Myra and Reive, also made the long trip in from the East coast to be there.
Wed evening after we arrived in Honolulu was an informal dinner for immediate family and out-of-town friends at Little Village in Chinatown May 11, 2016 8:53 PM Deb, Max, and Jawea Mockabee May 11, 2016 7:16 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Jawea Mockabee, Maxine, Maxine Klein My folks, Myra and Reivan, and Deb's friend Karen Muldrow May 11, 2016 7:17 PM : Karen Muldrow, Myra Zeleznik, Reivan Zeleznik Max, Jawea, and Mary May 11, 2016 7:28 PM : Jawea Mockabee, Mary Wilkowski, Maxine, Maxine Klein Myra and Karen Muldrow May 11, 2016 7:28 PM : Karen Muldrow, Myra Zeleznik Reivan with Deb's friends Laura and Chris Freeman-Clark May 11, 2016 7:28 PM : Chris Freeman-Clark, Laura Freeman-Clark, Reivan Zeleznik
Somewhere in the middle of all the pre-wedding craziness was time for a lunchtime poke bowl at Bangga Bangga Poke in the Ala Moana food court. I loved the name so much, I had to take a photo. May 12, 2016 1:34 PM Thursday night dinner was at Alan Wong's to celebrate both Deb and Mary's upcoming nuptials, as well as Myra's 80th birthday. Mary was in heaven since the first appetizer on the menu was the butter tasting! May 12, 2016 6:32 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Mary Wilkowski, Myra Zeleznik The butter tasting- two unsalted butters topped with Hawaiian sea salt, and a third salted butter May 12, 2016 6:31 PM Deb's seafood cakes were amazing May 12, 2016 6:34 PM Opihi shooters with seaweed and nicoise olives. Opihi are Hawaiian limpets that are very difficult and dangerous to harvest from rocks in strong surf zones. May 12, 2016 6:34 PM Mary's ribeye topped with "crazy corn" May 12, 2016 6:54 PM
Opah, or moonfish May 12, 2016 6:54 PM Reivan had the seafood hot pot May 12, 2016 6:54 PM Myra and Reivan bestow their blessing on Deb and Mary May 12, 2016 7:35 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Mary Wilkowski, Myra Zeleznik, Reivan Zeleznik May 12, 2016 7:36 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Mary Wilkowski, Myra Zeleznik, Reivan Zeleznik May 12, 2016 7:36 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Mary Wilkowski, Myra Zeleznik, Reivan Zeleznik May 12, 2016 8:02 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Mary Wilkowski
Max's dessert was haupia (coconut creme) ice cream inside a chocolate shell, formed to look like a coconut. May 12, 2016 7:58 PM Myra celebrates her 80th birthday, looking good mom! May 12, 2016 8:01 PM : Myra Zeleznik Coming out of Alan Wong's and waiting for our car, we noticed this peanut and seed store next door. Only in HawaiI! May 12, 2016 8:22 PM Friday lunch with the out-of-town crew at The Pig and the Lady in Chinatown. Toasting on the left from from front to back are Deb, Laura Freeman-Clark, Chris Freeman-Clark, and Mary's brother Jay who had just flown in from Buffalo late the night before. On the right from front to back are Max, Jawea Mockabee, Mary, and Karen Muldrow. May 13, 2016 11:36 AM : Chris Freeman-Clark, Debra Zeleznik, Jawea Mockabee, Jay Wilkowski, Karen Muldrow, Laura Freeman-Clark, Mary Wilkowski, Maxine, Maxine Klein May 13, 2016 11:36 AM : Chris Freeman-Clark, Debra Zeleznik, Jawea Mockabee, Jay Wilkowski, Karen Muldrow, Laura Freeman-Clark, Mary Wilkowski, Maxine, Maxine Klein Porchetta banh mi with a "Cobra Commander"- mezcal with sriracha ice cubes May 13, 2016 11:50 AM
The pho is awesome May 13, 2016 11:50 AM The sated but happy crew- Dave, Max, Laura, Karen, Chris, Deb, and Jay May 13, 2016 0:50 PM : Chris Freeman-Clark, David, David Zeleznik, Debra Zeleznik, Jay Wilkowski, Karen Muldrow, Laura Freeman-Clark, Maxine, Maxine Klein Chris and Deb May 13, 2016 0:52 PM : Chris Freeman-Clark, Debra Zeleznik On the way back to the car, we passed this store signage. With both gifts and weaponry for sale, how could we pass up a browse? May 13, 2016 1:16 PM Yep, most of these buttons spoke to us May 13, 2016 1:18 PM Deb with her pussy panties, a pre-wedding sale was  not  made May 13, 2016 1:19 PM : Debra Zeleznik
Friday night shabbat dinner was at the home of Deb and Mary's friends, Dana and Craig Washofsky. Rabbi Peter Schaktman and Mary's brother Jay. May 13, 2016 6:51 PM : Jay Wilkowski, Peter Schaktman Max and Gen Freeman May 13, 2016 6:51 PM : Genevieve Freeman, Maxine, Maxine Klein Deb with her college roomie, Chris Dickinson who came in from Chicago May 13, 2016 6:51 PM : Chris Dickinson, Debra Zeleznik Jawea and Mary May 13, 2016 6:54 PM : Jawea Mockabee, Mary Wilkowski Karen, Deb and Mike Washofski, and Laura Clark May 13, 2016 6:54 PM : Deborah Washofsky, Karen Muldrow, Laura Freeman-Clark, Mike Washofsky Dana welcomes everyone to Shabbat dinner on their lanai May 13, 2016 7:17 PM : Chris Dickinson, Dana Washofsky, David, David Zeleznik, Debra Zeleznik, Jawea Mockabee, Jay Wilkowski, Mary Wilkowski, Maxine, Maxine Klein, Mike Washofsky, Peter Schaktman
Awww... Mary and Deb are overcome with emotions at the Shabbat table May 13, 2016 7:17 PM : Chris Dickinson, Chris Freeman-Clark, Dana Washofsky, David, David Zeleznik, Debra Zeleznik, Jawea Mockabee, Jay Wilkowski, Mary Wilkowski, Myra Zeleznik, Reivan Zeleznik May 13, 2016 7:15 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Mary Wilkowski My, what a big match you have to light the Shabbat candles! May 13, 2016 7:19 PM : David, David Zeleznik, Debra Zeleznik, Jawea Mockabee, Mary Wilkowski, Maxine, Maxine Klein, Myra Zeleznik Deb, Max, and Myra prepare to light the Shabbat candles while Jawea takes a selfie May 13, 2016 7:19 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Jawea Mockabee, Maxine, Maxine Klein, Myra Zeleznik May 13, 2016 7:20 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Jawea Mockabee, Mary Wilkowski, Maxine, Maxine Klein, Myra Zeleznik Reivan does the long-form Kiddush May 13, 2016 7:22 PM : Dana Washofsky, Deborah Washofsky, Myra Zeleznik, Reivan Zeleznik
The challas had Mary and Deb's names baked on top May 13, 2016 7:24 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Mary Wilkowski May 13, 2016 7:25 PM Dinner spread, thanks to lots of work by Dana and Craig May 13, 2016 7:45 PM May 13, 2016 7:52 PM : Genevieve Freeman, Reivan Zeleznik Myra and Reivan May 13, 2016 8:23 PM : Myra Zeleznik, Reivan Zeleznik Homemade banana and mango bread, and fresh pineapple for dessert May 13, 2016 8:26 PM
Chris Dickinson, Dana Washofsky, Rabbi Schaktman, and Max May 13, 2016 8:26 PM : Chris Dickinson, Dana Washofsky, Maxine, Maxine Klein, Peter Schaktman The predicted Saturday rainstorms did not materialize, there are slow children playing in the chuppah just down this driveway in Kailua, and the brides-to-be have an industrial sized roll of plastic wrap. Sounds like all the ingredients for a wedding! May 14, 2016 2:10 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Mary Wilkowski Max and Reivan May 14, 2016 2:20 PM : Maxine, Maxine Klein, Reivan Zeleznik Myra and Rebecca May 14, 2016 2:27 PM : Myra Zeleznik, Rebecca Yulish Deb organizing the leis for the wedding party May 14, 2016 2:36 PM : Debra Zeleznik Dana Washofsky and Mike, her father-inlaw who was hosting the wedding at their house in Kailua May 14, 2016 2:39 PM : Dana Washofsky, Mike Washofsky
Chuppah pole-holders, prepped and ready May 14, 2016 2:42 PM : David, David Zeleznik, Maxine, Maxine Klein Deb give Max her lei. Notice how Deb is still not dressed for the wedding which is supposed to start in 15 minutes.... May 14, 2016 2:42 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Maxine, Maxine Klein Rabbi Schaktman and Deb May 14, 2016 2:43 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Peter Schaktman Deb's friends Mellanie Lee and Nalani Leonard May 14, 2016 2:54 PM : Mellanie Lee, Nalani Leonard Reivan with Deb's friends Tracey Messer, Karen Schneiderman, and Katie Friedman May 14, 2016 2:55 PM : Karen Schneiderman, Katie Friedman, Reivan Zeleznik, Tracey Messer Jay, Craig, and Rabbi Schaktman prep the chuppah May 14, 2016 2:57 PM : Craig Washofsky, Jay Wilkowski, Peter Schaktman
Mary and the pastry chef, as Mary explains once again how the cake is "so rich, I couldn't  possibly  eat another piece" May 14, 2016 2:59 PM : Mary Wilkowski May 14, 2016 2:59 PM : Mary Wilkowski Rabbi Schaktman and Jan Fried May 14, 2016 3:01 PM : Jan Fried, Peter Schaktman Max and Jawea try in vain to cool off before the ceremony by hiding in the bushes and sipping wine May 14, 2016 3:04 PM : Jawea Mockabee, Maxine, Maxine Klein Craig Washofsky, whose folks were hosting the ceremony and reception, gives Mary and Deb their leis. May 14, 2016 3:22 PM : Craig Washofsky, Debra Zeleznik, Mary Wilkowski May 14, 2016 3:23 PM : Craig Washofsky, Mary Wilkowski
May 14, 2016 3:23 PM : Craig Washofsky, Debra Zeleznik, Mary Wilkowski Myra and Reivan May 14, 2016 3:48 PM : Myra Zeleznik, Reivan Zeleznik Dino Cutrara and Mari Yoshihara May 14, 2016 4:06 PM : Dino Cutrara, Mari Yoshihara The first dance May 14, 2016 4:59 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Mary Wilkowski May 14, 2016 4:59 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Mary Wilkowski May 14, 2016 4:59 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Mary Wilkowski, Tracey Messer
May 14, 2016 4:59 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Mary Wilkowski Mary picked the R&B band  Hawaiian Soul , who were simply awesome. Not what you would normally expect at a party in Hawaii. May 14, 2016 4:59 PM Karen Schneiderman and Tracey Messer dancing to the band May 14, 2016 5:00 PM : Karen Schneiderman, Tracey Messer Deb and Tracey, and Mary and Karen May 14, 2016 5:01 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Karen Schneiderman, Mary Wilkowski, Tracey Messer Brother and sister, and a little Mary Poppins shade action from the afternoon sun May 14, 2016 4:10 PM : David, David Zeleznik, Debra Zeleznik, Reivan Zeleznik No Jewish wedding is complete without dancing the hora May 14, 2016 4:32 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Tracey Messer
May 14, 2016 5:02 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Karen Schneiderman, Mary Wilkowski, Tracey Messer Post-ceremony replay with Cha Smith, Chris Dickinson, and Deb May 14, 2016 4:49 PM : Cha Smith, Chris Dickinson, Debra Zeleznik The toasts and cake-cutting are about to start May 14, 2016 5:02 PM : Mike Washofsky, Tracey Messer Mary's former law partner, Jane Kimmel, toasts the newlyweds May 14, 2016 5:15 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Jane Kimmel, Mary Wilkowski The brides cut the cake, the brides cut the cake.... May 14, 2016 5:19 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Mary Wilkowski May 14, 2016 5:20 PM : Dana Washofsky, Debra Zeleznik, Mary Wilkowski
Why indeed, it is soooo rich.... May 14, 2016 5:20 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Mary Wilkowski Deb and Mellanie at Cha and Colleen's house for Sunday morning brunch May 15, 2016 10:40 AM : Debra Zeleznik, Mellanie Lee Mary, Reivan, Deb, and Myra on Sunday morning May 15, 2016 0:47 PM : Debra Zeleznik, Mary Wilkowski, Myra Zeleznik, Reivan Zeleznik